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So many people I have talked to recently are afraid to try
online dating for one reason or another. They hesitantly tell me their
fears, and hope that I am able to offer them some guidance or advice.
Sadly, singles are missing out on some great friendships and possibly
life mates, because they are letting fear control their decision of
whether or not to try online dating. Here are three of the most common
fears addressed: 1. Fear for personal safety. This fear is due to the reports you hear every so often in the
news of a young woman who was corresponding with a man online, only to
meet him and find out he was a 75 year old stalker with a knife, ready
to kill her. In reality, the reason this type of story even makes the
news at all is because it rarely happens. An online relationship is
probably safer than "real life" dating. Of course, you would be foolish
not to follow time-tested safety tips such as having a friend knowing
where you will be the first time you meet someone in person. Also, do
not give out your real address to someone online. Lots of safety tips
are posted on www.christian-online-dating-guide.com . The bottom line
is, of course use reasonable common sense, but don't let safety
concerns stop you from giving online dating a chance. Everything in
life has risks, but the rewards can be far greater! 2. Fear that "I'm not good enough". This is a ridiculous fear rooted in low self-image. So many
singles are afraid they are "too old", or "too overweight", or "not
good-looking enough." Therefore, they put themselves into an isolated
little box, and lose out on all the great things that life has to
offer. Afraid you are "not good-looking enough?" Guess what? There is
probably a wonderful man or woman online who is not model material as
far as looks go, but would make a terrific, loving, and caring
husband/wife. Plus, with online dating, it's more about getting to know
someone for who they really are, rather than superficial first
impressions. 3. Fear of moving to another state or country. This is another fear that can easily be resolved. First, most
dating sites have special geographical settings. If you don't want to
move to South Africa or Poland, you can eliminate these potential
matches from your searches. Even in the United States, you can limit
your searches to certain states or areas. Also, many men and women may
be more than willing to move to where you reside. Finally, don't rule
moving out. Just because you have lived in a certain place all your
life, does not mean you would not like somewhere new or a change of
pace. Stay open-minded. Rebekah Spicer is a relationship expert and helps to manage the popular online dating website http://www.christian-online-dating-guide.com. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rebekah_Spicer |
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